Part 7 of the series on The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
You can find an overview of all the habits in this blog
Habit 6 Synergy
Synergy is about the whole being greater than the sum of the parts.
Synergy between people
‘You are the average of the 5 people you spend most time with’
Ever heard this quote? Scientific evidence to back up this statement is difficult to find. But I think intuitively you will find some truth in it.
Who you spend time with influences the person you become. This might relate to beliefs, behaviour, but also wealth. If you want to be successful, spend more time with the people who you would wish to be more like!
Surround yourself with experts to learn from. You will not only learn from them, they will also learn from you. Together you will learn more than you would apart. And this is synergy.
Value your differences
The essence of synergy is to respect the differences between people. Be humble and recognise your own limitations. Forget about the idea that you all have to do it alone.
Appreciate what others can bring you through interaction with their hearts and minds. Mutual learning will create a flow toward growth, new learnings and insights. Both will benefit.
Most people are still trying to succeed in interdependent relationships. They are driven by gaining power – having a win/lose strategy- , or on being popular -and go for lose/win. They don’t really want to listen and understand, they want to manipulate.
It takes courage to change, as you have to step out of your comfort zone. You have to be authentic, open up and trust.
How to synergise
The key to interpersonal synergy is intrapersonal synergy. For this, you need habits 1 (be proactive), 2 (begin with the end in mind), and 3 (first things first). This will give you solid basis within you. And allows you to be more open and vulnerable.
Be of value. Seek opportunities to support others. You will get the opportunity to learn from them in return.
My biggest lesson was to feel that I am not alone, that I don’t have to do it alone.
That by opening up not only people can help me, but I provide value to others as they will learn from me.
Another aspect of synergy
If you are just like me – scripted in logic and analytical approaches – here’s an eye opener.
As a left-brain thinker, you will at some point discover that just thinking is inadequate to solve problems that require creativity.
By becoming aware of this, you will open a new script in your right brain, and another level of synergy has revealed itself!